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Overcoming Loneliness - The Hell of Loneliness

Auto Date Monday, March 16th, 2009

There was a time in my life, a long time ago, when I felt very lonely in the world. Do you know what it is like to feel you will never be loved for who you are? To never feel truly understood? To feel that when people see you, they are not seeing the real you - and they don’t even try to see the real you. It is like the real you is invisible to everyone but yourself - and everyone thinks you are somebody you are not. To be next to a person and feel so far away… that kind of loneliness is even more lonely than being just by yourself. At least by myself, I can just be me. I can feel who I am.

I felt as if my life had no real value to anyone, and thus no value for myself. For me, this was worse than “death”, because death seems a relief from loneliness. After death, I thought, there is probably nothing - and nothing is at least less painful than loneliness. For the tears of loneliness are one of the most painful experiences I have ever felt in my life. They are not tears of the body, but those of the soul. I wondered, why live when it seems so much easier to be dead? To be born into the world with so many people, and all your life feel alone. The present and the future seemed to stretch out into one long eternity. To tell you the truth, I did think of ending my life. But my heart told me, “That is against the law of nature.” Were I to end my life, I think I would have only been creating more suffering for myself in the next life. But if an angel had come in those dark times and asked me if I wanted to leave this world, I would have gladly gone with her.

And that is how I knew I was in hell. If heaven is the place where you never want to leave, then hell must be the place where you always want to leave but can’t. The place worse than death. And for me, loneliness is such a place, and it is one such a hell. Always wanting to leave, but not knowing how, seeing no way out, and no one to save you. And this hell was inside me, and I carried it everywhere I went, all the time, unable to be free. If only an angel would come and deliver me, for I did not know how to deliver myself.

But such an angel never came. Nobody came. Nobody came to save me. Nobody came to understand. The only person in the world, it seemed, was me. I was all alone, as it had always been, and seemed it always would be.

And in this darkness, I saw the only way out into the light… love. Love can save you. Love is the only way out of hell. Not someone loving you, because you can never expect anybody to love you. But you loving someone else. If no one loves you, at least you can love someone else. Love, without expecting love in return. There are others who are suffering in the hell of loneliness - love them so they need not suffer as you have suffered. Live so that others need not experience the hell you have experienced. A gentle eye, a kind word, a helping hand, a patient ear, a generous smile… these are the free acts of love you can give to ease the suffering of others. These acts of love take away loneliness - both their loneliness and yours. And they add to love - both theirs and yours.

I can’t guarantee anyone will ever love you back in the way you need to be loved. Love is always a choice, made freely by people and by fate. But I can guarantee that the love you choose to give freely, returns to you freely to live inside your heart. As love lives, so you live in love. For in the love you give to others, lies the seed of heaven. The hell of loneliness you once felt gradually fades away into the past. Love has the power to transform hell into heaven.

If you don’t understand any of this, then you are lucky, because you have not experienced the hell of loneliness, and so do not understand its language. Perhaps you live surrounded by love - or perhaps you feel you do not need love. But if you do understand the hell of loneliness, then know you are not alone. I know it may seem no one cares, but I care. That is why I write this for you. To let you know that you are not as alone as you may believe. And you need not envy those who never seem to have been lonely, for you are lucky too.

Yes, you are lucky too, even though you may not see it now. You are lucky because you have the chance to be stronger than others, for true strength is born from the ability to accept and overcome weakness. You have the chance to not fear death, for those who have been to hell no longer fear death. The chance to know how to love, for those who have never been loved have no choice but to love others - or die. The chance to always carry and feel love inside your heart, for that is the beginning and ending place of all love. To be a true survivor, for only those who have suffered can be said to have survived, and it is only the survivors who can become the true leaders. It is you who are lucky, because you have the chance to gain the power to transform hell into heaven, for only those who have been to hell can transform it into heaven.

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Five Short Quick Tips on Web Page Titles

Auto Date Sunday, March 15th, 2009

By Catherine Franz

Search engine spiders read and record page titles first.
Here are five tips on how you can get the search engine
spiders to read your titles and use them in their
optimization process:

1. Character count is important: Google’s maximum character
count for page titles is 83. Yahoo’s maximum character
count is 111.

2. Don’t use filler words like: and, for, the. They are
dropped anyway by the search engines.

3. Remove redundant or unsearch worthy words or phrases, for
instance: Welcome to, this is about, or Products Page.
Anything people would not normally search on. This also
uses up the limitations on character count (mentioned in #1
above).

4. Include word plurals, for instance: sales lead and sales
leads.

5. Include various spellings or misspellings of the words,
for example, saleslead and sales lead, could be used as one
word or someone might search on them as two separate words.

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The Betting Games Betting Aficionados Enjoying Taking Part in: Gaming Establishment Card Playing

Auto Date Thursday, March 12th, 2009

On the assumption you haven’t familiarized yourself with betting hall gambling, read on…

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For clarification, a gaming hall is a structure that offers card-playing. Here, guests will take a risk handling the slot machines or alternate pastimes of chance. Casino games mainly have methodically derived probabilities informing them which insure the house secures an advantage against the gaming fans. A legion of gaming establishment games can goad you into being overly habituated quickly. By way of example, consider the quintessential 1-armed bandit, a cash operated contraption with three, occasionally more cylinders that rotate once a crank latched onto it is operated. This appliance in the main pays up established by a string of images shown on the screen of the appliance. Sadly, gambling house pastimes furnish the false impression of ascendancy, thereby tricking the gaming aficionado - the punter is charged with decisions, but in reality these won’t realistically match up the client’s statistical handicap. This is induced by the gaming room never repaying the full sum as expected. This method is often seen at work in popular casino games like five-card stud, dice, roulette or blackjack.

Stud poker is a very a highly trendy casino pastime. The guests, religiously guarding their covered hands, place their stakes into a principal pot that is then given to the last player blessed with the leading hand. (Obviously, the best bluff can easily win too.) Like seven-card stud, blackjack is also a highly fashionable casino pastime. A sizeable chunk of its appeal is by virtue of its particular mix of chance and proficiency and decision making, and a process named “counting”. It is a craft in which gambling enthusiasts may actually skew the odds of the card game to establish the upper hand both by betting & systematic decisions in correlation to the cards shown. “Craps” is a well known gambling hall wagering game utilizing the roll of a couple of dice. Aficionados will make bets on the outcome of of one roll, or on a series of cycles of two dice. Dissimilar to blackjack, there’s no possible killer strategy punters can exploit to improve the odds. Roulette is a celebrated casino based game - a croupier twirls a roulette wheel which has precisely thirtyseven (French roulette) or precisely 38 (American roulette) distinctively tagged receptacles in which a tossed ball will finally settle, which establishes the final winning number as well as the other odds. Assuming that a gamer bets on a number and is successful so it’s their lucky day, the set reward is going to be thirty five to 1, the initial pledge itself is paid out. Therefore in totality it is increased by 36.

Please take care to be very on the alert under all circumstances as most all of such betting saloon games of chance should be deemed pretty addiction forming. Countless lives may well have been wasted through reckless gambling and notwithstanding that it seems entertaining, venture to practise self governance.

Low Interest Credit Card Deals May Not Be As Good As They Claim

Auto Date Wednesday, March 11th, 2009

For many consumers the credit card has gone from being an item to use in times of an emergency or when cash is a little low at the end of the month to a form of payment that is used routinely for items that would normally have been paid for with cash. Unfortunately, the convenience that a credit card brings with it also allows an individual to rack up an enormous amount of debt without really knowing and at interest rates that are normally quite high. That’s where a low interest rate credit card can come in handy.

Most low interest rate credit cards are designed to be used by people that use their credit card regularly but don’t always make a large enough payment to pay off the monthly balance on the credit card. This leftover balance can create a rather large finance charge at the end of the month on a regular credit card with a higher interest rate. However, this isn’t the case with a credit card that applies a lower finance charge based on a cheaper interest rate.

When searching online for the best low interest rate credit cards don’t make the assumption that all credit cards are created equal. The fact is unless you spend a little bit of time researching to find the best credit card deal you may not end up with as low of an interest rate as you had initially planned. Just like any other purchase it is always wise to do some comparison-shopping even if it is only for a low interest rate credit card.

The best card should be one that offers both a low interest rate on purchases as well as cash advances. Many cards will offer better rates on material items that you purchase but heaven forbid if you make a withdrawal or obtain a cash advance using your credit card because in most cases the annual percentage rate or APR can sometimes be as much as 10 or 11 percentage points higher then the regular purchase rate.

A word of caution when comparing low interest rate credit card deals and offers. Always make sure to read the fine print. Some cards may only offer the lower interest for 6 months or for an initial balance transfer. What initially seemed like the best low interest rate credit card can suddenly turn out to be a credit card nightmare if you’re sitting on a large balance at the end of that introductory time period. In some extreme circumstances you may find that if you have $1000 or less on your credit card it qualifies for an APR of 11% but if the amount is $1001 or more then the charged interest rate could be as high as 14% in some cases as high as 16%.

As you can quickly see a low interest rate credit card can be very helpful but only if it truly meets your financial needs based on your spending and paying patterns. When searching for the best credit card that offers low interest rates be prudent and take a few extra minutes to make sure the credit card does what it actually claims.

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Credit Rating and Credit Cards

Auto Date Wednesday, March 11th, 2009

Free gifts are great. And when free offers come in the mail, we may feel like we’re the most important person in the world! The problem is, when those free offers are from credit card companies, we may want to avoid signing up!

They like us because we have good credit. But it could be our financial ruin!

This is because credit card providers use the concept of risk measurement to determine who need to receive a credit card. And if your credit rating is good, you seem to be a good risk to the credit card providers. So they make many of their offers attractive.

When you get these great offers in the mail, you should consider very carefully before you jump in with both feet and get every credit card that comes your way. Why? Because credit cards are loans and the lenders feel you can only have so many loans out at once before it becomes unmanageable based on your income.

It’s a downward spiral: Your credit rating is so good that you’re thought of as a great risk. And because they think that you’re a good risk, you get many offers. But because you get lots of offers and you sign up… you’re thought of as a bad risk! Even if you don’t use all of the available credit limit on your cards, the availability is there and that’s what lending institutions look at.

And, if you find that your outstanding debts (such as credit cards, loans, or bills owing) have gotten out of hand from excess credit cards, you just might want to consider pulling it all together through a debt consolidation loan. A debt consolidation loan gives you the benefit of getting a fixed monthly payment (rather than an unknown variable payment) and a lower interest rate and usually over a longer period of time to repay.

So credit cards aren’t necessarily a bad thing. We need them in this day and age. But what you need to do is approach them thoughtfully, selecting the best and discarding the rest. And if things have gotten out of your control, consolidate your debt to get control of it again.

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Pinfish - A Great Fishing Bait

Auto Date Tuesday, March 10th, 2009

Pinfish are great bait for a wide variety of species; they are easy to catch and are found all over the shallow waters of the Suncoast. Put a little bit of bait (squid works very well) on about a #2 or #4 hook and toss it over some grassy bottom - it won’t be long before the well is full of ‘pins. You can also chum them up with catfood and bread and throw a cast net over the whole lot - ‘pins are fast though, and often can run faster than the net can sink. Sabiki rigs work well for catching pins, but sometimes you need to add a tiny bit of squid to each hook to make it more effective.

Pinfish are very hardy as baitfish go, often outliving everything else in your baitwell. When handling them, watch out for the very sharp dorsal spines - they can really stick you good (that’s how they get their name). Hook them just under this fin and fish them with little or no weight inshore. Offshore, a live pinfish will often get grouper to bite when nothing else will. This is a great baitfish that will also give beginning fishermen a very nice tussle on super-light tackle (nice way to entertain the kids on a windy day).

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Auto Date Tuesday, March 10th, 2009

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Mountain Resorts in the Alps and North America Are Increasing in Popularity

Auto Date Monday, March 9th, 2009

Monoskiing increases in numbers, and a lot of the French snowboarding towns, ie. Flegere, Val Thorens, Portes du Soleil, and Brevent are trying more than ever before in order to see to it that all snowboarders savour their ski weekend both on and off the slopes. Naturally there are numerous ski areas to select, however lately snowboarding domains across France and N. America have been making the requisite improvements to assure that their clients do not experience the same old ski break.

Nonetheless, it is not merely N. America where you ought possibly look for your snowboarding holidays, since the skiing Europe provides some excellent ski mountains - the famous French Alps never disappoints. Les Houches in the Alps is in the process of being done up - famed for being the most high sightseeing spot in the French Alps - with a brand spanking new cafe being constructed that will provide beds to house keen climbers and those on skis. And Chamonix town has undertaken a lot of work with the addition of several newfangled bubbles.

Whether it is France or the States you decide to try for snowboarding trips, counting the attempts made to better the trip for the snowboarder, it is much more likely the trip shall call for a jam-packed time of diverting fun and frivolity. So what is it you’re holding off for? Go on and order your skiing holiday immediately.

Are You an Information Front-Seater or a Back-Seater?

Auto Date Monday, March 9th, 2009

During my never ending quest for knowledge on business, investment, motivation, personal development and other topics that interest me I have attended countless seminars. Some were excellent and some were - well, let’s just say… interesting.

Something always strikes me at these seminars. Oh, I’m not talking about something falling on my head. Rather, what falls into my head.

You see, I am a keen observer. I notice things. I make it a habit. I always have. Now I just have an eye for detail. I guess you could say I am a curious type.

So, having explained all that - what do I see at seminars?

First, I see that most of the people who attend them are already successful at something. That’s obvious. I won’t go into that. Let’s just say that successful people are always on the hunt for more knowledge.

Next, I see certain folk who sit close to the front and certain folk who sit right down the back, where it is easy to “escape” and not be noticed. The key to that last sentence is the last three words - not be noticed.

Those who sit right at the front almost always appear more confident. They also come prepared with notebooks, calculators, journals and pens.

I also observe that during intermission (there usually is one), these people make a bee-line for the presenter and completely monopolize his or her time. They ask questions. When they do this what do you think the crowd down the back do? Well, some have had enough and go home, others slip into a nearby bar for a drink and many race outside to get a quick-fix of nicotine.

After the seminar is over, those in the front rows are always the ones to purchase books, tapes, videos and other materials. And again they descend upon the presenter for what I call the “good oil.”

By contrast, those at the back of the room, while deserving congratulations for attending in the first place, are usually already gone. They rarely take notes, they tend to conduct private low-level conversations between themselves (I detest that!), never approach the presenter and rarely purchase any further information.

Sometimes I sit at the back of a seminar to observe these things. I want to see who is there for the information and who is there for the social aspects. So I watch. However, my preferred position is somewhere down the front - not necessarily in the very front row but somewhere near it where I have clear and unimpeded access to the presenter if I need it.

To finish up, let me ask you a couple of questions:

  • Do you avail yourself of seminars and courses?

  • Are you a front-seater or a back-seater?
  • Might it be to your advantage in future to take a front seat? There are already plenty of back-seaters. They’re everywhere - and not just at information seminars.

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    Finding the Best Small Business Credit Cards

    Auto Date Friday, March 6th, 2009

    If you are looking for a credit card for your small business, you are going to want to take a little time and research all the different companies out there. More and more credit card companies are offering different credit cards for the small businesses that are established out there. You are going to find a large variety of different credit cards that are designed for the small business owners out there.

    You are going to want to figure out which credit card is going to benefit your small business in the best way. That would be like if you are in the type of business that travels a lot than you may want to check out the credit cards that offer you airfare rewards. That way you are going to be able to take a business trip using your credit card that is working for you.

    Another good thing about having a small business credit card is that you are going to be able to keep track of all of your expenses and that will help you out with the keeping of the books. This could even include a dinner that you are entertaining some of your clients or possible future clients. This would help out the small business owners that are out on the road all the time because they are going to be able to pay for exactly what they may be in need out while they are out on the road. Plus they are going to be able to keep better track of their spending with the detailed statement they will receive from the credit card company they are with. That would help them find out if they are spending too much money one entertainment and less than enough money on the supplies that may be needed for the company.

    With all the different credit offers that a small business owner may receive in the mail they are going to want to make sure that you are going to apply to the credit card that will be the best benefit for all of your companies needs. Whether it just is invoicing, traveling, or it is entertaining any clients to so that you may be able to further your business in the future. There are credit cards out there that will suit all your small business needs so take your time to see what all the offers are out there for the small businesses.

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